Suicide Survivors: Coping with Anger at Your Suicide Angel
by Kevin Caruso
Suicide survivors must cope with a spectrum of difficult and complex emotions. But each suicide survivor’s emotional experience is unique.
Some suicide survivors feel anger at their suicide angel.
And if you are feeling that, please understand that you are undergoing a very common emotion that you will work through. It is typical for the anger to come and go, and sometimes even intensify to rage…but it WILL subside in time, my friend.
And please do not feel guilty for feeling angry, because you are a human being. But understand that the source of your anger is pain…excruciating pain.
And the pain from a suicide is very different from the pain from other deaths. You were not able to prepare for the death, so it shocked you. And you were not able to say goodbye. And you probably are still trying to determine all of the reasons behind the suicide.
So to be angry is to be human. Just make sure that you express your anger in constructive ways. Talk with friends and family members; talk with a therapist; write your feelings in a journal; exercise…and give yourself time to work through your anger.
Remember your emotional journey will be different from any other suicide survivor, so there is no right or wrong and there is no time frame that you have to work with. Just be yourself, express your emotions, and get help when you need it.
And as your anger abates, you will think more about the positive memories of your angel…and there are many, many wonderful memories that you can enjoy.
So, give yourself time, my friend. Be gentle. Express your anger constructively. And know that you are experiencing a normal emotion on your road to healing.
And please know that I love you,
If you or someone you know is suicidal, please go to the Home Page of this website for immediate help.
I love you.